I don’t know about you, but many times I have thought about another person, ‘Why can’t you just be more like me?’, ‘Why can’t you understand me?’ or ‘Why don’t you care how I feel?’ When it has taken me an excruciatingly long time to work up the courage to take one small step into the world, my beautiful, raw little heart needs some lovin’! Imagine my relief, enlightenment even, to discover that these queries are because I am an S brain. Now I can own my reactions and transform them into more authentic interactions.
Maybe you have heard of life coach Tony Robbins? Well, regardless of your thoughts about Tony’s work, he has a well-researched, very helpful, free personality test called the DISC profile that you and those with whom you are in relationship can take. He names 4 distinct personality types, and describes traits and tendencies for each. Often people are a combination of personality types, with one type being the dominant natural tendency. Check it out here https://www.tonyrobbins.com/disc/
Here’s a very brief introduction to his work.
D brains are described as dominant, decisive and dynamic. They are confident leaders who enjoy competition and challenges. D’s make good Lawyers, Military Personel and Business Executives.
I brains are interested in people, inspiring and imaginative. They are friendly and outgoing, and they enjoy social recognition. I’s make good TV/radio personalities, Event Planners and Politicians.
S brains are supportive, sweet and sentimental (okay and sensitive). They are trustworthy, softhearted and are good listeners. S brains make good counselors, teachers and HR directors.
C brains are careful, conscientious, critical thinkers. They love detailed plans, precise answers and order. C’s make good accountants, scientists and computer programmers.
I think this is so helpful in learning how to interact with students, peers and family. If I know, or even suspect, that someone is a D brain for example, I can structure my lessons at a faster pace, and leave them with a challenge to work on. Whereas if I am working with an I brain, I might encourage them to tell me about what they did/accomplished that day, and then offer sincere praise and recognition in response. When parenting a C brain, it is important to always keep my promises, and ask clear, specific questions about school work. And collaborating with a fellow S brain is just love and compassion-land supreme, though we will likely need a non-S to step in and help us make a decision. For me, the DISC profile is a valuable tool that helps me navigate entry points for relationships so that I can more effectively meet people ‘where-they-are-at’ in order to build meaningful connections. What personality type best describes you?